You Cannot Have A Positive Life & A Negative Mind

Good Day Readers!

I was 17 and I had cursed God and asked him “Why Me?!”

I grew up in a very religious home. Every aspect of my life revolved around church. We went to church every Sunday, went to Sunday school, and all my friends went to the same church. In teachings, we were taught that God will never give you more than you can handle.

By the time I was 17, I went through more traumatic events than most 17 years old and adults would ever encounter. It was that day, that I looked up and cried and wondered “Why, me”.

In my early 20’s I became a very hard and unloving person. It was almost like I stopped caring. I stopped seeing the positive sides of life. I was so focused on the doom and gloom and always anticipating the next bad situation. I was so full of anger and quite self destructive. Even writing this, I remember that lost soul.

I recently wrote a post about taking a step to change in your life when you’re not happy with how it’s going. So often, the news and our friends social media profiles are focused on the negativity in the world. What would happen if we changed our thoughts to a more positive approach?

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It can be extremely difficult to focus on the good when, seemingly, bad things are happening in your life. However, you can train your mind to focus on the good things in your life rather than dwelling on the bad.

Over the last decade, I have read tons of self help books and have became more spiritual (emphasis, not religious). I have learned that so many of life moments are out of a person’s control. What happened to me in my youth was very much out of my control and I needed to learn how to stop blaming myself  for those events.

The biggest AHA moment came when I realized that I have a CHOICE when it comes to my reaction to situations.  I have a CHOICE on how I live my life. I have a CHOICE to accept positivity or negativity and today I accept positivity.

Every day, I choose to be a better version of myself. I choose to focus more on the positivity than the negativity of things. I choose to empower those around me to make positive changes in their life. I choose to raise my children to be leaders and guide them how they can make a difference in this world.

Is it easy? NO! Every day it is still a struggle. Every day, those negative thoughts and comments creep into my mind but when it does, I choose to change my thinking pattern.

You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind. Learn how to change your negative thoughts into a positive ones on Everything's Coming Up Rosie via www.ecurosie.com

When I start thinking:

Am I good enough? – to – I AM good enough.

I didn’t get that job because I totally screwed up – to – I made a few mistakes but I would excel at this job.

I’ll never have money – to – I will be financially sounds and this is what I am doing to get there.

He thinks that I’m an idiot and won’t want to see me again – to – We had a few laughs and can’t wait to see where this goes.

To Recap

To change our thinking pattern, we need to stop and recognize the negativity, be aware and then slowly change our thinking pattern. Repeat.

If you’re a positive person by nature, that’s awesome! If you tend to see negativity, I promise that the more you practice positivity, the more positive things will come into your life.

What are your tips when you start to feel negative thoughts come into your mind?

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Hey, I’m Rosie! I am a strategy consultant from Alberta, Canada. I provide smart, savvy women with advice on their goals and future direction so that they can plan effective strategies for growth, whether it’s personal or business-related. I’ve been featured on Annette’s Rochelle Aben’s radio show “Perspectivepower” and ceoMom’s. When I am not blogging, you’ll find you me drinking coffee, making popcorn and hanging out with my two daughters. If I can follow my dreams, you can too!

0 thoughts on “You Cannot Have A Positive Life & A Negative Mind

  1. Natasha@Anxioustoddlers.com says:

    This is so true! I always try and remind myself that what I focus on will become my reality. What a great reminder!

  2. Natasha@Anxioustoddlers.com says:

    This is so true! I always try and remind myself that what I focus on will become my reality. What a great reminder!

  3. You make some great points. It’s so easy to get caught up in negative thinking and not even realize it. For a while I was so positive about most things except when it came to my own life. I’ve learned that I have to be kind to myself and not beat myself up for being human, learning, growing and making mistakes along the way.

  4. You make some great points. It’s so easy to get caught up in negative thinking and not even realize it. For a while I was so positive about most things except when it came to my own life. I’ve learned that I have to be kind to myself and not beat myself up for being human, learning, growing and making mistakes along the way.

  5. I totally agree with thinking and being positive. Many years ago I had to learn how to accept what God gave me. I didn’t have a choice. It was either walk away from my challenged son or accept it and learn from the experience. My life changed in so many ways both spiritually and positively. I do not take life for granted. My son taught me the reason for a positive and spiritual life.

  6. I totally agree with thinking and being positive. Many years ago I had to learn how to accept what God gave me. I didn’t have a choice. It was either walk away from my challenged son or accept it and learn from the experience. My life changed in so many ways both spiritually and positively. I do not take life for granted. My son taught me the reason for a positive and spiritual life.

  7. As I have grown older, I have found that when I am positive and focus on the good then good things happen. If I am negative and start thinking those gloom and doom thoughts then something bad happens. It is a choice and every morning you have to wake up and say today I choose to be happy.

  8. As I have grown older, I have found that when I am positive and focus on the good then good things happen. If I am negative and start thinking those gloom and doom thoughts then something bad happens. It is a choice and every morning you have to wake up and say today I choose to be happy.

  9. laurasidestreet says:

    I totally agree although it can be quite easy to slip into a negative thought pattern and harder to break it but it’s something you need to address straight away – some great tips
    Stopping by from SITS sharefest

    Laura x
    http://www.sidestreetstyle.com

  10. laurasidestreet says:

    I totally agree although it can be quite easy to slip into a negative thought pattern and harder to break it but it’s something you need to address straight away – some great tips
    Stopping by from SITS sharefest

    Laura x
    http://www.sidestreetstyle.com

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