Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
Shortly after my separation, I looked in the mirror and couldn’t believe the person staring back at me. Gone was the athletic girl, who played tons of sports growing up. Gone was the girl that took pride in her looks. In her place was a lost frumpy, 200+ lb woman that I didn’t recognize. I asked a friend, “how did you let me get to this size”? “How come no one told me that I needed to take care of myself”? Better yet, why was I not taking care of myself?
It was then I realized that my family was the centre of my attention. Everything I did was for them. I made sure that their needs were taken care of before mine. I spent so much time focusing on others that my life had no direction. If you’re like me, we all started out with good intentions – wanting what’s best for our family.
Advise When You Need It Most
Literally, a few days later, I was watching the Oprah Winfrey show and they were talking about how we needed take care of ourselves first. It struck a chord with me and from then on I often remind myself of this episode and have often shared it with my mom friends too.
If you’ve been on an airplane, then you’ve heard the safety walk through that takes place on every flight.
The flight attendants show you the exits, walk you through their emergency procedures, and tell you about the oxygen masks that will come down on their own if the plane loses cabin pressure. Here’s the analogy that was share:
This is the part you really need to listen to:
Please put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others.
That was my “AHA” moment. If we’re not taking care of ourselves first, how can we be of value to those in need? I’ve learned this lesson the hard way. By not making myself a priority, I was not eating right, stressed out trying to be everything to everyone, tired all the time, irritable and even had resentment. I needed to learn how secure my own mask first. To be a better parent, I needed to be a better individual. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. How powerful is that?
My First Printable – 10 Empowerful Ways to Put Yourself First
It’s been written the first person, so that when you do read it, (even quietly to yourself) it will become a self affirmation. Here it is (click the image to download the printable version)
Tommorrow, I will share 6 ways that I make time for me. Stay tuned!
My Challenge to You
Schedule a mommy time for yourself. When you do, reply in the comments and tell me what you did.
Sign up for that art class. Check out that play you said you wanted to see. Get a manicure, massage, pedicure, whatever it is to help you feel pretty again. Go shopping. Sign up for that yoga class. Call a friend and plan a coffee date. Take a bubble bath. Not into baths? Try a long hot shower without interruption. Enjoy that glass of wine.
Whatever it is, do something that you enjoy that will invigorate you. When you start to feel guilty, remind yourself that you deserve to be happy and that happiness starts with you first. The biggest return on investment for your family is taking time for you.
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