There Is No Wrong Way to Have a Body

There is no wrong way to have a body via Everything's Coming Up Rosie (www.ecurosie.com)

Good morning! 

Have you ever struggled with your body image? You’re not the only one.

In other post’s I’ve talked about how fit my family was while growing up. My dad was into body building and because of that I started lifting weights at a young age. I also played a ton of sports: basketball, volleyball, track and field and even boxing.

Read my posts: Life Lessons My Dad Taught Me 

What I haven’t shared are the comments I’ve heard when I wasn’t as fit. By 20, I was standing at 5’2′ and I weighed just over 100 lbs. Although, I was petite, I was a powerhouse, lean and quite muscular. As much as I was athletic, I still had people questioning my eating habits, many thinking that I was anorexic. If they could see how much I ate, they would think differently.

At 25, when I was pregnant with my oldest, I had gained a whopping 90 lbs. My family teased me about my weight, as I was so bloated and rolly polly. I laughed and joked along side my family. After, V was born, I  struggled to lose the baby weight.

Often I heard comments from my dad about the need to lose weight, and did  I really need to have seconds and other remarks. I know that he wasn’t intentionally trying to be mean and I’m sure in his own way he thought that he was motivating me, but instead I felt insecure and tried not to eat around him. After each visit, I would go home and cry and my ex-husband asked me why I was always seeking my dad’s approval and kept telling me to block out those comments.

Over the years, my weight continued to be yo-yo of weight loss and gain. Another incident, my ex-mother-on law told me “You know, for a big girl, you don’t eat a whole lot.”What? What part of person thinks that’s okay to say to someone?

Even though I heard comments from those around me, I had my own body image issues.

Other times, I would hit the gym and go hard core. Just over a year ago, I participated in the Turbulence Training Transformation Challenge at my local gym and lost a bunch of weight and nearly 20 inches.

Everything was going great until the day I went to gym and stared at the 40 lbs dumbbell and I couldn’t lift it. It wasn’t because I didn’t have the strength but it was mind over matter. The depression I was in dominated my very thoughts and actions. My mind told my body to give up and I listened.

Read My Post: My Secret Battle with Depression

The battle with weight still continues. In the dating scene, guys tell me that they LOVE dating curvy woman.

According to Urban Dictionary: 

it used to be used to define an attractive, healthy woman’s figure, which was an hourglass shape and good shoulders, now it is used to describe fat women. magazines wrongly use the word ‘curvy’ to try and make fat gals feel better about not being called fat
Just this weekend over Easter dinner, my dad reminded me the importance of going back to gym. He expressed how exercise will be good because of the work that I am in and how it will relieve stress.

Overall, I eat pretty healthy. I try and eliminate processed food, eat as much fresh fruit and veggies, and little meat. On weekends, my girls and I try and stay active by hiking, snow shoeing, cross country skiing, etc.

I know that I could probably be more active and one day I will. For now, I’m completely okay with how I look and feel.

After all, isn’t it time that we accept people for who they are rather than for the shape, size they are?

Here are three more celebrities sharing how they deal with naysayers:

As Usual, Kelly Clarkson Has the Best Response for Fat-Shamers

On this edition of the News Hour Plus, the Global BC anchors discuss how to deal with hecklers after Kristi Gordon received a hurtful letter from an unhappy viewer. For more info, please go to http://www.globalnews.ca

In a world, where telling someone that they lost weight is always supposed to be praise, Marie’s story shows that it’s just as praiseworthy to be the weight that you naturally (and healthfully) are. After watching Marie’s journey, like her video and share her fearless body-size acceptance with your friends and loved ones.

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Hey, I’m Rosie! I am a strategy consultant from Alberta, Canada. I provide smart, savvy women with advice on their goals and future direction so that they can plan effective strategies for growth, whether it’s personal or business-related. I’ve been featured on Annette’s Rochelle Aben’s radio show “Perspectivepower” and ceoMom’s. When I am not blogging, you’ll find you me drinking coffee, making popcorn and hanging out with my two daughters. If I can follow my dreams, you can too!

7 thoughts on “There Is No Wrong Way to Have a Body

  1. I’ve always struggled with my weight, and been reduced to tears by people who think they’re helping more times than I can count. Not to mention, worked out until I’m literally crying from the pain, only to get on the scales come weigh-day and find I’ve actually gained weight rather than lost it.

    I eat quite a healthy diet: I’m a vegetarian, and mostly eat fresh fruits and veggies, plus make most of what I eat from scratch (most of my food ingredients come from the fruit and veg or health food stores). I also exercise as much as I can (bearing in mind I have disabilities and things that limit what exercise I can do). Yet, despite this, I have people – including my own doctor – making comments about how I’m not making any effort to be healthy, and need to lose weight. The only person who not only seems unconcerned about what the scales say when I get on them, but also openly tells me I look good as I am, is my hubby.

    The worst comment I ever got from anyone about my weight though was this one: “If you weren’t blind, you could see how big you were, and why we’re so concerned for you.” That comment still hurts four years later. I mean, comments about my weight are bad enough – especially when it’s not like I don’t make any effort to try and be healthy – but bringing my lack of sight in to it… That hurt! Especially since the person knew it had only been a couple of years since I lost the last of my sight, and I was still struggling to come to terms with it.

  2. kdakin says:

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