5 Reasons Why I Am Not That Mom
Today, I am sharing five reasons why I am not that mom. But first…
At 3:48 yesterday afternoon, I received a text from my 15-year old’s school reminding me about that evening’s Parent Council meeting. This is the first year that I decided to be an active member of the committee. If you’re not familiar with Parent Council, it’s essentially a committee of parents that provides them a forum for parent involvement in the school community.
Having moved to a new city, I thought it would be a good opportunity to meet parent’s of my daughter’s age and a way to show support for the school. Attending my first committee meeting last fall, I was a bit naive about what the committee was and the level involvement that I could give. And I sure didn’t expect to be elected as the minute taker or whatever title it was that they gave me. *sigh* Now that we’re just over halfway through the school year, I can tell you that I don’t enjoy going to the meetings. It perturbs me when meetings aren’t productive and then I feel like it’s been a waste of my time.
As I was driving to the school last night, the sun was setting, and the weather was still nice and cool. My thoughts were beginning to wander and I was beginning to wish that I was anywhere other than driving to the school. A few thoughts crossed my mind and I thought that I would share them with you.
These thoughts have crept into my mind many times over the years. Truthfully, I’ve acknowledged and accepted that I am not this type of mom. What mom? I’ll tell you.
I’m not that mom that….
- Is highly involved with my daughter’s school assignments, exams, and/or grades
- That volunteers for school dances or field trips
- Remembers to make those sweets, cupcakes, and/or treats, for each holiday throughout the school year. Be thankful if I remember at all
- Knows my daughter’s school activities, what food she takes in her school lunches and lucky if I catch a glimpse to see if she is wearing appropriate clothes for the season
- Often complains to the Parent Council on how the teachers are giving too much homework or putting too much pressure on the kids to learn
But I am that mom who will…
- Be there when they call and they tell me that they are sick
- Sit and hug them when they have had a bad day
- Know that they are having a bad day, without them uttering a single word
- Tease and make fun of their clothes and their accent when they speak. How there is a little twang on certain words, and the accent comes from living bi-coastal
- Encourage and support both to try new school activities, sports or anything they put their mind too
- Teach them that if they don’t know the answer then they need to ask
- Teach them that they can be whatever they want to be and encourage them to dream big
- Always challenge them and teach them to never give up and always look at the bright things in life
- Take them out of school for the day, just so that they can take a break
- Teach them to be a collector of moments and not things
- Watch their movies and TV shows so that we can enjoy quality family time together. (And I promise that I will try and stay awake during the movie, especially the cartoon ones)
- And finally, that I teach them that life is not always easy, we will have our ups and downs. As long as we are doing it together, nothing can ever come between us
I am not the domestic mom. I also know that there is no right or wrong way of being a mom. But I will tell you this, I love my daughters more than anything in this world. They motivate me to be the best that I can be and also teach me how to be “in the moment”. I constantly remind myself how blessed I am to have these two beautiful, smart, independent girls as my daughters. They are both so unique and because of them, I understand for the first time what unconditional love is.
What are your favourite (or least favourite) things about parenting?
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