5 Reasons Why I Am Not That Mom

5 Reasons Why I Am Not That Mom

Today, I am sharing five reasons why I am not that mom. But first…

At 3:48 yesterday afternoon, I received a text from my 15-year old’s school reminding me about that evening’s Parent Council meeting. This is the first year that I decided to be an active member of the committee. If you’re not familiar with Parent Council, it’s essentially a committee of parents that provides them a forum for parent involvement in the school community.

Having moved to a new city, I thought it would be a good opportunity to meet parent’s of my daughter’s age and a way to show support for the school. Attending my first committee meeting last fall, I was a bit naive about what the committee was and the level involvement that I could give. And I sure didn’t expect to be elected as the minute taker or whatever title it was that they gave me. *sigh* Now that we’re just over halfway through the school year, I can tell you that I don’t enjoy going to the meetings. It perturbs me when meetings aren’t productive and then I feel like it’s been a waste of my time.

As I was driving to the school last night, the sun was setting, and the weather was still nice and cool. My thoughts were beginning to wander and I was beginning to wish that I was anywhere other than driving to the school. A few thoughts crossed my mind and I thought that I would share them with you.

These thoughts have crept into my mind many times over the years. Truthfully, I’ve acknowledged and accepted that I am not this type of mom. What mom? I’ll tell you.

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I’m not that mom that….

  • Is highly involved with my daughter’s school assignments, exams, and/or grades
  • That volunteers for school dances or field trips
  • Remembers to make those sweets, cupcakes, and/or treats, for each holiday throughout the school year. Be thankful if I remember at all
  • Knows my daughter’s school activities, what food she takes in her school lunches and lucky if I catch a glimpse to see if she is wearing appropriate clothes for the season
  • Often complains to the Parent Council on how the teachers are giving too much homework or putting too much pressure on the kids to learn

But I am that mom who will…

  • Be there when they call and they tell me that they are sick
  • Sit and hug them when they have had a bad day
  • Know that they are having a bad day, without them uttering a single word
  • Tease and make fun of their clothes and their accent when they speak. How there is a little twang on certain words, and the accent comes from living bi-coastal
  • Encourage and support both to try new school activities, sports or anything they put their mind too
  • Teach them that if they don’t know the answer then they need to ask
  • Teach them that they can be whatever they want to be and encourage them to dream big
  • Always challenge them and teach them to never give up and always look at the bright things in life
  • Take them out of school for the day, just so that they can take a break
  • Teach them to be a collector of moments and not things
  • Watch their movies and TV shows so that we can enjoy quality family time together. (And I promise that I will try and stay awake during the movie, especially the cartoon ones)
  • And finally, that I teach them that life is not always easy, we will have our ups and downs. As long as we are doing it together, nothing can ever come between us

I am not the domestic mom. I also know that there is no right or wrong way of being a mom. But I will tell you this, I love my daughters more than anything in this world. They motivate me to be the best that I can be and also teach me how to be “in the moment”. I constantly remind myself how blessed I am to have these two beautiful, smart, independent girls as my daughters. They are both so unique and because of them, I understand for the first time what unconditional love is.

What are your favourite (or least favourite) things about parenting?

~ Rosie

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16 thoughts on “5 Reasons Why I Am Not That Mom

  1. “Complains to the Parent Council on how the teachers are giving too much homework or putting too much pressure on the kids to learn” I am definitely not that mom. It was not my job to judge how they taught my kid.

  2. It’s better to be the kind of parent who’s there, and who knows their child well, than to be so involved in volunteering to do things – even if it’s for the school that your child goes to – that you forget about family time, and don’t even have time to get to know the likes and dislikes of your own child.

    I haven’t been following you for long, but from what I’ve read of your blog, you seem like an awesome Mom to me!

  3. You sound a lot like my mum, and hey, I don’t think I am a disaster 😀 I grew up independent but with the certainty that my mum would be there if I needed her 🙂

  4. I’ve done cakes (provided they are store bought) and cheered loudly during my son’s school production and sporting events, but I also have to work. I figure kiddo has to learn to be independent at some point.

    Favorite thing: Listening to the stories / observations the kids come up with.
    Least favorite: The closest gourmet food we eat at home is currently the organic package of chicken nuggets

  5. I’m with you! I don’t do cakes and volunteering on trips but I *know* my child and can give him what he needs most of the time, whether that’s a hug, some space, a snack or a wrestling match. (But not too often with the wrestling, please!)

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